Wednesday, December 4, 2013
Tuesday, December 3, 2013
Today's Kickin' It is an exploration through color! I looooooooooooooooooooove how the prompts use color as the vehicle for inquiry. (I could soooo see adapting this to use as a creative tool for exploring grief experiences. You know, "what's the first thing you think of in your grief experience when you think of red?" That kind of thing!) Anyway, plus today's prompt gave me a reason to dig out these silly holiday light pics I took back in 2010 and then never found a use for using then. FUN! So here goes:
Hot blooded Italian anything!
Closest red thing to you?
A polka dotted kleenex box
What is the last thing that made you angry?
Something that so should not have...something so trivial that it wasn't worth the energy it took to get angry.
Are you a fan of romance?
Of course! My guilt pleasures in the romance area are Diana Gabaldon's books :)
Do you have a temper?
Gawd, yes. Much as I am trying to temper that by using meditation to give me some space between something setting me off and actually setting off!
What's the first thing you think of when you think of green?
The Lucky Charms leprechaun, but he wasn't green was he?
Closest green thing to you?
My surface of my desk is marbled green.
What's your favourite green environment?
Oh the Pacific NW. Can't beat it.
Are you jealous of anyone right now?
You know when I used to grasp at things, the big things, I wanted and all the things I wanted wanted wanted, yes, jealousy came up a lot. Now that my life is different, when jealousy does come up, I use it as a flag to immediately go and do something generous or giving for someone else. Deflates jealousy immediately. Such that, it hardly comes anymore. It's like the instant it comes, I get all gooey with trying to turn my attention to sharing the love for something or someone else with the world. I don't know if that makes any sense at all :)
Are you a lucky person?
Gawd, no. I think I was a horrid dictator in a past life because I'm paying for it this life!
What's the first thing you think of when you think of purple?
Diva time! I may not be lucky in this life, but I like to play Diva in my sparkles and divine purple robe now and again. Hey, I'm a girlie girl. What can I say? :)
Closest purple thing to you?
My watercolor crayon sharpener.
Do you like being treated like royalty?
Of course, didn't you read my answer above about Diva time? :)
Do you like mysterious things?
Oh, that's a harder question. If the mystery is fun, that's one thing. But if there is an ominousness to the mystery, ack, I hate it... I get all anxiety filled and worry. That's no fun! Though I am trying through meditation to get comfortable with ungroundedness and the reality that it is all a mystery, so enjoy the ride.
Are you intuitive?
What's the first thing you think of when you think of blue?
Cool ice or swimming pools. Both lovely!
Closest blue thing to you?
Photo of me in a swimming pool that is on board behind my computer.
Are you good at calming people down?
I try. Helps if I can stay calm myself.
What's your favourite body of water (i.e. lake, ocean, etc)?
Can I just pick all of them?! I'm sooooooo a water baby.
What was the last thing that made you cry?
Seeing our daughter-in-love coming down the aisle for her and our son's wedding a couple weekends ago. So happy for them!
Are you a logical thinker?
What's the first thing you think of when you think of yellow?
The saying, "Yellow and blue make green." ???
Closest yellow thing to you?
A yellow piece of paper on which my husband wrote, "I love u, you woman u!!" :)
What was one of the happiest times of your life?
It's such a long story, but a long while I ago I ran away to California and the addictions that were taking me over instead of staying put with Hawk (my now husband). One day I knew I would die if I stayed on the path of that life. I called Hawk and asked if he'd come get me. The next day I opened my door and there he was with a moving van. Of course I was also pretty darn happy after getting sober and spending the next Christmas with Hawk during which he present me with a huge rose quartz rock (because he knew I was not a diamond ring kind of girl so he got me a different kind of rock), and then asked me to marry him.
What's your favourite holiday?
Winter holidays...not exactly Christmas or Solstice or anything in particular, but just a mix and mingle of all the holidays because of the lights and twinkles and jingly music.
What makes you happy?
Waking up next to Hawk and realizing we have another day together.
What's the first thing you think of when you think of pink?
Closest pink thing to you?
A post it note that says: "Proceed on the hypothesis that cultivating JOY can make you a more ethical and compassionate person."
What sweet things do you like?
Babies with their little baby scent at the top of their heads, you know? Just will never - not even when I'm really really old and decrepit - never, ever will cease wanting to hold them and sniff that scent!
Are you sensitive?
What is your favourite flower?
Oh, too hard to pick. Iris. Orchid. Tulip. Purple roses. Too many.
Do you have a crush on someone?
My Hawk. (And don't tell Hawk, but a little tiny itty bitty stupid teen girl crush on Robert Downey Jr., too.)
What's the first thing you think of when you think of orange?
Mmmmm, dessert. I like fresh orange slices for dessert.
Closest orange thing to you?
Cover of the book, "How To Be Sick: a Buddhist inspired guide for the chronically ill and their caregivers."
Do you dress up for Halloween?
Not really anymore.
What gives you the warm fuzzies?
When Hawk comes up and does one of those wrappy hugs like really squishmishic'ing and I can smell him and hear his heart and oooooooooooooooooooh, just makes me want to evaporate into each other!
What would your superpower be?
What's the first thing you think of when you think of brown?
Grass during drought.
Closest brown thing to you?
Brown bottle of Oil of Oregano...I take drops of it every time I feel a scratch or sniff in the effort to get through the season without getting sick too many time!
What is your favourite type of chocolate?
Dark, raw cacao! My very favorites on the planet come from ChocolaTree in Sedona, but short of that, making my own dark, raw cacao truffles is something I looooooooooooove doing!
What makes you feel grounded?
Ice on the head, warm blankets on the body, dark, quiet room. Works for dealing with migraines, too :)
Paint the wood or always leave it au naturel?
Never never never paint the wood!!! Henna it maybe. But not paint.
What's the first thing you think of when you think of white?
Christmas show tv sets in studio, you know? Like the set of old Bing Crosby specials or the new Glee holiday shows. Or maybe just snow in general...or wedding dresses. :)
Closest white thing to you?
Do you always try to keep the peace?
I try to find peace within myself. Usually, if I can do that, then it reflects outward even if others or the situation is other wise not peaceful.
Do you like to play in the snow?
Awwwww, snow angels. Been years and years.
Are you afraid of going to the doctors or dentist?
Not afraid, but I do hate that we are so hostage to care in the US all dictated by your economic status. You only get what you can afford, not what you need. It just seems cruel. So I rarely engage unless I absolutely have to...and I've done a lot of work with alternative options and learning how to care for ourselves through basics like food.
What's the first thing you think of when you think of black?
Closest black thing to you?
My wacom drawing tablet.
Are you sophisticated or silly?
Pretty goofy actually.
Do you have a lot of secrets?
Not really. I've been sort of unabashedly publishing pretty personal works since high school, so I don't think there's much left to be secret. But I suppose there are a few :)
What's the new black?
Japanese yams. :P No idea. :)
Miracles to you all, lovies!!!
Monday, December 2, 2013
Doing the Kickin' It Old Skool fest, so everyday (or at least when I can catch up!) I'm gonna share on the blog here this month as part of that event. For those of you who are also playing, I'm looking forward to surfing over to your blogs, too. Sharing the season with you is just perfection -- and many thanks to the Ridler sisters for hosting all of us!! Sending all of you gentle vibes via the first heART pic in this post, and then onto the Days 1 and 2 details...
Awwww, I love that we are starting with De-selfies :) I love, too, that Jamie and Shannon encouraged us to do both a look at today, but also a "back in the day" look! I'd have to say my favorite "back in the day" pic is from long before anyone knew what a blog was...talkin' back in the '90s here. Gawd, I'm old. But so here's my THEN:
Capture in a capsule
And then onto Day 2's prompt to share more of the capture in the time capsule! So along with the selfie capturing the visual of NOW, here are a few details of other peeks at what NOW looks like for me:
What are you reading?
Actually, I'm re-reading at the moment. Toni Bernhard has a new book just out that I hope to find in my stocking this holiday, so in the meantime, I'm re-reading her previous book, "How To Be Sick: a Buddhist inspired guide for the chronically ill and their caregivers." Dealing with my own chronic stuff is easier in lots of ways now, but this season seems to come with challenges. So I'm allowing the book to remind me of creative ways to be with my chronic stuff.
And actually, there are a few other books in pile, too...some new reads, some re-reads. I keep a Pin board of quotes that catch me from whatever I'm currently reading. If you want to see more, those are here:
What are you watching?
My watching happens in starts and fits. For a good while recently, I'm working my way through the Art21 series over on PBS:
because I'm obsessed and fascinated with other heARTists and how they work, come up with ideas, layout their studios, and such. But once in a while for total larky do-nada fun, I tune into TV Land and catch old episodes of The Golden Girls and then new episodes of Hot In Cleveland. I think it's hilarious how they are basically the same show...well, in a way. Anyway...
What are you listening to?
Pandora Radio, the Christmas station:
Can't stop. Been listening to it since November 18th and probably won't stop til New Years. :) I don't properly celebrate any particular holiday this season, but the music -- I think because Pandora leans toward the jazz end of the spectrum -- just makes me feel dreamy and soothed and yummy.
What are you loving?
Just the small things and experiences of the every day ilk:
- I miss our three boys who died, but our living daughter is married and has given us three amazing grandbabies now. Our living son just got married a couple of weekends ago, and we hope he and our daughter-in-love will have more grandbaby news for us soon (nothing like pressure from the parents, aye?! Ack! :)).
- I love waking up next to my husband Hawk each day. I know death inside and out, so I know one day we won't wake up next to each other -- that makes every moment now just sooooooo much to savor.
- I love when he makes me tea in the mornings.
- I love juicing and having new food experiences with him.
- I love the holiday lights our housemate put up outside our front windows.
- I love the work I do at The Creative Grief Studio, and thank my lucky stars every single day for Cath, my biz partner and heART partner.
- I love that we live in a place that is less than a mile from "uptown" so I can walk to do anything I want.
- I love my once-a-week (or so) gingerbread hemp milk latte.
- I love that I have a studio space with a door I can close and just make art all night long if I can't sleep.
- I love our little island life. I would be just fine dying here. I don't need those mainland things and bigness stuff I used to long for...I'm happy here. I don't have huge cravings anymore which is so ... ??? freeing? Something.
What are you wearing?
As silly as it is, I love Day of the Dead skellies all year long. So even as we move into this season of light, I'm appreciative of the shadows. Even when I'm all seasonally decked out, I usually have on my skellie scarf.
What are you creating?
I'm actually working on a new "how-to" post for here and for our Creative Studio kit post this year. Here's a little preview:
What are you looking forward to?
Harder question than it used to be. I don't plan a lot now. There are lots of ideas, options, possibilities for how things might go -- or might not go. But I tend to not pin myself to anything in particular anymore because I know how quickly things fall apart. And if I was particularly pinned to some other outcome, then I'm disappointed and must wrestle with reality. So I'm looking forward to the next breath. Maybe. I know a time will come when even that won't come, and that's okay, too. So maybe it's closer to say I'm just looking forward to whatever comes. Adventures while breathing...until that ceases, and who knows? Maybe there are adventures after that, too?? :)
That's that for today's shares. I'll be back each day or every other day or so with more Kickin' It Old Skool. Please feel free to leave comments and point me back toward your blog, too. I'm loooooving the chance to use blogging as a way to create community again!
Miracles to you,
Kara aka MotherHenna
Monday, November 11, 2013
- Become a RAKtavist: http://www.randomactsofkindness.org/raktivists
- Find Kindness Ideas here: http://www.randomactsofkindness.org/kindness-ideas
- Re-member your dead loved ones into community through ideas like this: http://motherhenna.blogspot.com/2012/12/kindnesses-and-other-simple-ways-to-re.html
- Do a marathon on meditation, heART-making, or Reiki for others. See an example of this from Angie over at StillLife: http://stilllifeeveryday.blogspot.com/2011/08/jizopalooza.html
- Have trees planted in the name of your loved ones: http://www2.arborday.org/shopping/donations/orderfire.cfm?TrackingID=619
- Give clean water so those still living can be well: https://www.charitywater.org/donate/
- Send a thank you note to someone you've long been meaning to thank.
- Get on your favorite social media platform and do a whole slew of shares to tell your followers about the work of others! Promote and share the love for other people doing things that inspire you. Spend an entire social media session sharing the love!
- Get in touch with your local food bank and volunteer to help them this season. Either give food or money. Or give your time and be there to stock or ask for donations outside the grocery store. Or ask their staff what they need as they may need something that falls right with your skills in marketing or something.
- Ask another person what they truly need. Stick around to hear their real answer. And then help them get that need met if you can.
Even if grief seems to have swiped your ability to feel joy, allow yourself to see how your kindnesses give joy to others. Feel joy for their joy. Keep meeting others with a sense of loving kindness as you move through the holidaze. Don't be afraid to let others know you are doing kindnesses in the name of the person you love who has died. We are all part of the season -- living and dead -- equally. And allow yourself to move in a way that *knows* there is room for all of us -- and that "room for all of us" comes especially when we are kind and share and really witness one another. You can do it. And the legacy of your dead loved one is worth it! So go for it.
Wednesday, November 6, 2013
Maybe it is an occupational hazard of having (very happily) been an only child who looooooved (and still does love) having time alone to play, be with my imagination, to create, and set stages. It made me realize that I have this skill of conjuring or accessing guides even when I'm alone. Now, I've been fortunate the last 17 years to have Hawk present with me in a way I never thought another person could be, and he often has wonderful ideas and reflections as a guide and friend. I'm also lucky to have in person or skype meet-ups with friends like Cath in South Africa or Lynndee on the other side of the island for flesh and blood Creative Council meetings, too. But there are still lots of times in my days when I get to be solo with my only child imagination. And I realize now that when that happens, even alone, I have guides. When/if the time comes that I am truly alone because all I love are dead and gone, and I'm at the mercy of whoever or whatever till death claims me, too -- well, I can honestly say, I know now that the alone-ness of that won't really be alone.
Call it play acting, imagination, batty auntie in the attic, creative coping, resilience, or accessing my most foundational skills learned in my earliest years...whatever. I see now that releasing BOTH the fear of being alone *and* the desire to be alone, allows me to just be with whatever IS in this moment. When this moment brings flesh and blood, it's fabu. When this moment brings tea parties with imaginary friends, it's fabu. Or whatever emerges from between the extremes, fabu. Or maybe even "fabu" is a grasping -- maybe it is closer to say, whatever it is, just IS. And when faced with IS, I deal and do and be and become IS myself.
As habblety-babble as that is, that's the creative prompt I'm sharing today. Who are your flesh and blood Creative Council members? Has it been too long since you connected with them? Then do it now. And in your alone times, take the time to allow your imaginary Guides emerge, too. Get to know or get re-acquainted with them. Doodle them, name them, carve them in clay, whatever you like. Really take the time today to value your skill at building supportive community (in your inner and outer lives), at accessing a life of *inter*dependence. Allow your cast of characters to emerge!
Friday, November 1, 2013
Celebrating Day of the Dead with you!
For me personally, I'm honoring the great-grand and grandparents, along with my three sons, who've all gone before me. I've been spending a lot of time trying to rest into a sense of peace, even in the face of death and grief. So I decided to do a series of Skellie cards that could be strung together in the way you might see prayer or peace flags. The photo below is the result -- and you can click here to see the "how-to" for details about how I made them, too.
|By Kara LC Jones of MotherHenna|
Presenting: The heARTists
|Melissa Ixcheldevi of Spirit Goddess|
|Angie Yingst of The Moon + Stone|
|Rachel Regier of Curlsofred|
|Christine Grothe of Grothe's Cornfields|
|Lola Irizarry at Lola on FB|
|Gemma Manzo of Gemma's House|
|Lynndee LeBeau at LynndeeLeBeau.com|
|Nicci Dot C A of Glitzy Gal|
|Michelle Fave at Rite Here Now|
|By Signe Reda|
|Marline Smallwood of Twig Studio|
|Kelsey Perchinski of Dummaniosa|
|Adrienne Edmonson of Spun Sugar|
|Allison Trundle of AllisonTrundle.com|
|Tracy Arancio of Artrageous Treasures|
|Emily Sellers Wilberg of Stepping Stones|
|Litsa Williams and Eleanor Haley of What's Your Grief|
|Melissa Innocenzi of Never More Place for Art and Life|
If you are looking for ideas for Day of the Dead celebration,
I've got some other posts that you might like:
A bit of background about Days of the Dead:
|Click here to get Day of the Dead themed prints, cards, and more.|
And remember you aren't alone on these days:
|Click here to get print, cards, or stickers of this one.|
Thursday, October 31, 2013
Welcome to today's "how-to" in celebration of Day of the Dead, or Halloween, if you like. While Days of the Dead are officially started on November 1st, there are some traditions that start the Days the night of Halloween, midnight November 1st, believing that this is when the veil between the worlds opens and the spirits of the children who have died come back first. So in memory of my own three dead sons, I'm lighting my candles and finishing my ofrenda today. And for you all, I'm sharing a step by step on the series of pieces I made for our recent artists trade for Day of the Dead. Tomorrow on November 1st, I'll post the full Day of the Dead blog festival which will share photos of the pieces from all the artists and share a few links to posts that some of the artists have done to share more about their processes, too. Now, on with the step by step:
In the photo below, you can see the difference between the lightly Gesso'd card on the left and the untouched one on the right. It makes a big difference that you'll appreciate when you go to do the print later:
this one over on DickBlick. You could also put a very heavy book over top maybe.
You can also see in the photo above, that I pulled out one of my Micron pens and did some hand detailing after the pressing dried. The crown, the spirals, and the flowers across the tops of the skulls are all hand drawn.
Steps 17 and 18
Once each set of skellie flags was strung together and totally dry, I folded them up, one against the other. On the back of one of them I did a numbered, signed, dated notation, and then slipped each into a plastic sleeve. And every artist in the Day of the Dead trade got one set! It was incredibly fun. And it was really fun to see the pieces that each of the other artists sent to me in trade, too. More on that tomorrow when we post our blog fest here. Come on back then and see more!